The funniest and yet the saddest joke of the millennia is that the land of Kamasutra is a lot more than just reluctant to talk about sex. The result is generations of people not having access to adequate sex education and additional stigma in society.
While Indians have clearly mastered the children-making part of sex, the absolute absence of conversations around it has certainly resulted in some empty spots.
The biggest problem with pretending that sex does not exist is that it leaves little room to discuss what is possibly going wrong with sex.
The blanket ban on porn, that simply exists on paper, clearly does not translate into people not watching porn. In fact, it is the most common sex-educator for Indians, due to the practically non-existing sex education curriculum.
We have all been a part of the super awkward class in high school when the teacher would simply brush past chapters without letting us glimpse through the “The sex-ed” lessons.
Not to mention, the illustrations in which are often far away from reality, convincing some into thinking that they were born with the wrong genitalia.
While there is nothing wrong with learning new things from the internet, porn might be doing more damage than good.
Learning about other bodies from a relatively plastic industry renders many with unrealistic expectations. Real vaginas and penises are not what you see in porn. It’s high time we say this out loud, There is nothing wrong with your body because the big guys aren’t really that big.
Porn is often created to tickle people’s kinks, but in the process, it also ends up creating completely absurd fantasies, putting strange ideas into people’s head.
Well, that’s where we reiterate, Porn is just entertainment!
Sex in life doesn’t happen like that. There are a lot more important things that need to be discussed before jumping into the act. Consent, for instance, is a completely alien concept in the industry despite being extremely important in real life.
The porn industry is highly dominated by male directors and producers, who often create porn for the consumption of the male audience, the result being an absolute absence of narratives around women pleasure and most people remaining completely oblivious to the idea of female orgasms.
Real women do not orgasm like what is often shown in porn, because at the end of the day, it is a performance put up by actors. Real sex requires a lot more foreplay, and more importantly, it’s about making your partner feel comfortable.
The biggest and probably the most harmful construct often seen in porn is that women like violence. While the line between spanking and thrashing isn’t that thin, everything seems to be blurred out when it comes to porn. Most women accept that extreme violence like physical aggression or demeaning sex does not give them any pleasure.
To make sure, that the end result of your act is pleasure for your partner and not trauma or pain, it’s a good idea to communicate before trying new things.
The bottom line remains, porn isn’t all bad. It’s widely consumed and loved by people. The problem lies in not differentiating between life and porn. Watching porn is like watching Bollywood stunts. They might seem entertaining on-screen but if put to practice, they are likely to become epic fails!
